If you think that others need to change for you to be happy, you probably hold limiting beliefs buried deep in your mind.

These beliefs shape your perceptions and influence how you interact with others.

They can lead to misunderstandings and conflict, creating unnecessary tension in your relationships.

Think about it—if you believe your partner or someone you’re interested in must fit into a certain mold, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

What’s really happening is that you’ve created an idealised version of this person. When they don’t match your expectations, you feel unhappy. But in reality, it has nothing to do with them—it’s all about your own internal limitations.

You might even dismiss their genuine actions as mere attempts to please you, simply because their behavior doesn’t align with the standards you’ve unconsciously set.

And what’s worse? Your inner frustration can seep through, pushing away a relationship that could have been meaningful.

When you hold these beliefs, you often attract situations and people who highlight them—not to hurt you, but to help you become aware of what’s inside you and restore balance.

A common mistake people make is rejecting these people or experiences, even though they are opportunities for growth.

These beliefs can limit your life in many ways, so it’s crucial to recognize and release them.

They don’t just affect how you see others—they also distort how you see yourself. They act as filters, hiding the truth, when in reality, things are often neutral until we assign meaning to them.

Step One: 

 Ask Yourself a Powerful Question

Start by asking yourself a transformative question:

“Why do I not want to have a good relationship with my partner?”

You can rephrase it, but the key is to begin with “Why do I not…”

Keep asking until you uncover an answer.

You’ll feel it when it comes—almost like a sudden realisation that you’ve been believing something untrue. It will feel unexpected yet freeing, like a lightbulb moment.

And most importantly, you’ll notice that the answer is about you, not external circumstances..

Step two

Now that you’ve identified your limiting belief, write it down and reflect on it.

Ask yourself:
“Is this really true?”

More often than not, the answer is no. And it can’t be true—because that’s exactly what’s been blocking you from seeing reality as it is.

Once you’ve uncovered the belief and recognized its absurdity, take a moment to acknowledge it. Then, gently release it using this powerful statement:

“I’m sorry that you had to hold this belief in your mind. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”

Yes, you need to say this to yourself. This is the practice of Ho’oponopono, a Hawaiian method of healing and self-reconciliation. It helps you release self-blame and emotional weight.

You can challenge these beliefs in various ways, but often, just seeing them for what they are is enough to invalidate them.

Step three

After this internal shift, be kind to yourself. You may feel slightly lightheaded or emotional—this is completely normal. Releasing limiting beliefs frees up energy that was trapped in maintaining them.

Now, don’t replace the old belief with its opposite. Doing so creates expectations, and expectations often lead to disappointment and frustration. Instead, strive for neutrality—seeing things as they are, without attaching unnecessary meaning.

Being neutral is your natural state. It allows you to experience life without judgment, rigid beliefs, or mental filters. It’s the most freeing way to exist.

When more of us embody this neutral state, we project a calm and peaceful energy into the world. By simply being your authentic self, you contribute to creating a more harmonious collective environment.

Final Thoughts

By applying these three steps, you’ll start experiencing powerful shifts—both expected and unexpected.

But be mindful—this is a deep process. Every time you clear a belief, your mind and body need time to adjust. 

To support yourself:

Get extra rest if needed

Drink plenty of water to help flush out toxins

Spend time in nature to restore balance

Remember: Information alone does not create transformation—action does.

If you’re truly ready to release limiting beliefs, transform your mindset, and align your mind, body, and spirit, I invite you to reach out. 

Let’s explore this journey together.