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The Four Control Dramas

What are the four Control Dramas?

An interesting way of looking at bad behaviour that I want to share with you is a fascinating little theory that I discovered in a book called The celestine Prophecy by James Redfield.

What are the four Control Dramas?

An interesting way of looking at bad behaviour that I want to share with you is a fascinating little theory that I discovered in a book called The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield.

There are many great ideas in this book and there is a concept that we have ways of stealing energy from each other through control dramas.  The author of the book says there are four, which are called The Intimidator, The Interrogator, The Aloof, and Poor Me.

The Intimidator, steals energy from other people by dominating them and making them feel inferior, either with physical or verbal aggression, so he gets to feel better and the other people feel worse.  This is similar to being aggressive, which we’ve talked about already.

The Interrogator, gets to feel good by asking questions that are aimed at making the other person feel small so that the interrogator can feel superior to them.  

Questions like “Have you thought about going on a diet?”, “Why don’t you do that differently?” and “Why are you so hopeless?” and “Come on, TALK to me!” are not nice questions are they?  And questions like “You know why that happened don’t you?” are tricky because whatever you say they are going to say “Oh no no no, you’ve missed the point”.  That’s the interrogator.

The Aloof, which is a common response to an Interrogator parent or an interrogator partner – the Aloof copes with other people by acting distant & hiding what they really think, and either not answering at all or answering evasively, maybe with short non-committal answers like “Maybe” or “I don’t know really”.  

They Aloof might drop vague hints, which in turn may mean that you ask even more questions in order to engage with them. You can imagine how an Aloof person could use this as a defensive strategy, but also you can see how the aloof will encourage others to interrogate them to try to find out what they really think. And that way they make other person feel tired or feeling that they somehow caused the aloof being that way. The Aloof encourages the Interrogator, and the Interrogator encourages the Aloof. 

Poor me take the victim position, saying their life is awful and it’s all unfair, and they use guilt or pity to manipulate you.  They might say “It’s fine, I’ll just carry on, I’m used to doing everything by myself” or even “After all I have done for you, you let me down like this.”, ’’How can you do that to me, don’t you see what you did’’?

Do you tend towards one of the four control dramas?  And who do you know that is an Intimidator, and Interrogator, an Aloof, or a Poor Me?  And do they bring out one of the other behaviours in you?The way to end this energy getting and receiving method is to open to the true source of energy The Creator, and get your own energy flow. To make this happen you have to find your honesty and sincerity in every way and in every situation. In this case to recognise and address this energy obtaining behaviour. 

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